Prodigal Children
During a prodigal season, otherwise lovable kids are often at their worst. They may become rude, demanding, manipulative and abusive. All of my children at some point experienced growing pains..... Since my ex and I were never on the same page in regards to parenting; there was not only a discord in their behavior but also in how we as parents responded to them. That in addition to the effects of divorce and legal issues regarding custody and foundation as in home and change in living circumstances changed the dynamic of my family forever. Some parents (mainly me) think they have to put up with bad behavior in order to display God's love. I wanted so badly for them to heal and know that unlike divorce from their father; that I would never leave them. That's not so. The prodigal benefits more from the parent who says, "I love you, but I won't tolerate disrespect." Set boundaries in any area that concerns you, especially if your child wants to move back. Make sure your child understands your boundaries and the consequences for overstepping them.
Funny enough, my grids (My two oldest grown children) have acted out the worst...........to the point of not speaking to me or their father for long
periods of time. At first the hurt set in and then anger in that I was always an active parent putting their needs first and somehow they get to act as if that was not enough. As for their father his actions have further deepened the well of discord because he did nothing for them before he left and he still does nothing. So their behavior continues to reflect the STING of all the mess. And while their father does absolutely nothing; I have to compensate for what he is not doing and it makes me feel angry and resentful and sad. He is not the person I thought he was. So I pray for PEACE. I pray my children return back to God's fold-WHOLE and at peace with where they are in life and where they're going. Peace in knowing they are loved; they are prayed for. I pray for my ex as well and his mistress turned wife. I pray for forgiveness and that he would return to his children with desire to get to know them for who they are and not for the fake images he wants them to portray and love them anyway.
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