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Unconditional loves' definition is:
To love somebody with no conditions or circumstances: to love completely. So many times in life we find that as human beings we don't truly practice this. 
My fault (YES I have them) is that I am the someone who only loves others HARD, giving of myself freely without any boundaries  sometimes portraying myself as extremely passive.  That is me being a “people pleaser” which means I'm not being unconditional or loving to myself first. Let me tell you, playing the martyr is not always rewarding or validating and only leaves you and the other person resentful. I am learning to work to recognize when doing what is best for me first might sometimes have me prioritizing my needs and desires above someone else's. This is a healthy part of defining who I am as an individual and crucial to me in knowing my own gauge for self-love. Remember, only when we know intrinsically that we have value to be loved, can we give love cleanly. 
I always tell my children (particularly my oldest and youngest children because my middle child is currently not speaking to me....!#$**non-unconditional love: for now), to know who you are and whose you are.  I know without a doubt that I am a child of God and I belong to HIM. He loved meand you too so much that HE sacrificed HIS own son to die for our sins that we can have eternal life with HIM forever. HIS SACRIFICE IS UNCONDITIONAL and is our foundation on which to build our own example of what that is. 
Even though I am a honeybee, trials and tribulations in my life make me want to sting others when I perceive a threat to my hive(livelihood-my happiness). I know though when I do want to sting, a part of me dies along with who I hurt. A honeybee’s stinger is made of two barbed lancets. When the bee stings, it can’t pull the stinger back out. It leaves behind not only the stinger but also part of its digestive tract, plus muscles and nerves. This massive abdominal rupture is what kills the bee. So choose to be understanding and kind and loving and when someone is indifferent or not accepting of that; pray that God will open their minds and hearts to receive it. And keep it stepping!!! Not Your Average Bee Buzzzzzzzzzing Off!!!!.............................................

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