Not Your Average BEE

                                      Unconditional loves' definition is: To love somebody with no conditions or circumstances: to love completely. So many times in life we find that as human beings we don't truly practice this.  My fault (YES I have them) is that I am the  someone who only loves others HARD, giving of myself freely without any boundaries  sometimes portraying myself as extremely passive.    That is me being a “people pleaser” which means I'm not being unconditional or loving to myself first. Let me tell you, playing the martyr is not always rewarding or validating and only leaves you and the other person resentful. I am learning to work to recognize when doing what is best for me first might sometimes have me prioritizing my needs and desires above someone else's. This is a healthy part of defining who I am as an individual and crucial to me in...

I welcome the New Year with joy. I thank God that he continues to keep me and my family. The New Year is a magical time.  It is a time for reflection and rebirth . A new year is  a chance to regroup and a cause for much joy and celebration! The fresh start of a new year is an exciting opportunity to improve and become more than I am. It is a chance for reinvention and abundant happiness. To have great joy, I open my mind and my heart to what the New Year will bring. I avoid fearing the change that the ending of one year offers. I welcome change because it allows for growth. Change keeps things interesting and eventful. I find excitement and joy in every new experience. The New Year  provides me with an opportunity for reflection and growth . Each day provides that, but the changing of a year is more significant. As I reflect on the New Year, I realize all of the joy the past year brought to me. I reflect on the past year’s challenges, as well as its moments o...

Don't get sucked into the  "Narcissistic Vortex." If you are related to,  married  to or divorced from a  narcissist , then you know how difficult it is reason with them. Narcissists  are masters at manipulation. They are often intelligent and charming when you first meet them. In the beginning, you hold them to high esteem. They're fully aware of this, of course, and they  love  to bask in your adulation. But once you catch on to their tactics and question behavior that is the opposite of their once-charming selves, they become deeply threatened. They will then paint themselves as a victim and you as their aggressor, expertly blaming you for the relationship's demise and all other misfortunes in their life. You, as the co-dependent, try to reason with him, change his mind, or challenge every verbal assault point-by-point in hopes that the narcissist snaps out of his irrational behavior. Maybe this time he will understand,...

Part of the history of a bee involves y oung worker bees that are sometimes called "nurse bees". They clean the hive and feed the larvae. When their royal jelly-producing glands begin to swell, they begin building comb cells. They progress to other within-colony tasks as they become older, such as receiving nectar and pollen from foragers, and guarding the hive. Later still, a worker takes her first orientation flights and finally leaves the hive and typically spends the remainder of her life as a forager. This bee here is all buzzed out with the expectation that one self is to provide for others by any means necessary yet when it comes to the foraging bee no one is truly there.  And isn't that typical of LIFE?................... There are UPS and DOWNS, HIGHS and LOWS but s olitude is the creation of an open, empty space in our lives by purposely abstaining from interaction with other human beings, so that, freed from competing loyalties, we can be found by God”...

    lonely bee.................. When my children were younger I cherished the times that I would steal away by myself. The peace and quiet was a GIFT! Being a stay at home Mom.....well...I was NEVER ALONE! While I valued the time with them, I also resented it because so much of myself was lost in the NOISE and when I was alone I got to go back to ME and my dreams, my goals, my happiness. Well now my children are GROWN (Brandon almost:)) and post divorce #!@ when I finally get back to the peace and quiet.....well.....it is HORRIFYING! All of a sudden I do not know how to handle being in my OWN SPACE. Then in the quiet of being a SILENT BEE it came to me: John 16:32-33   "A time is coming and in fact has come when you will be scattered, each to your own home. You will leave me all alone. Yet I am not alone, for my Father is with me.  "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I h...

                                                          Sometimes God can call us to make individual changes or promises future change in our life; at other times, the ways of life change for people after dramatic events take place in their lives. Whoever said change is good LIED! Well not really but they didn't tell you the whole story on how you went through the process and eventually got to the GOOD.. The Bible says: "Behold! I tell you a mystery. We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, and the dead will be raised imperishable, and we shall be changed."  [1 Corinthians 15:51-42] and.... "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the wi...

                                                                                Being  a busy bee requires wit and skill and dedication!! This past week the work was well worth it as my Father celebrated SENIOR CITIZENSHIP!! For me as a child projecting myself into the future was like an image of the Jetson's in the space age with technology advancing and somehow each of remaining youthful and timeless........ Well-I DIGRESS OKAY?? While age definitely fades your youthful looks away the joy of growing older in the grace and favor of GOD is what makes me a REAL QUEEN BEE and since I'm my FA...